Arn
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He left mad at me and a few others.
He had some personal things to deal with, I think that's mostly what is occupying his time.
I was told that later after the fact from someone else. I have messages, that are long rants about my defects as a human being. Ps my mother was passing that week. Come here to de-stress not get stressed. I am not only one that got rants. I blocked him. Totally off the rails and he chased off somebody that was very talented and did absolutely NOTHING wrong.
If bashing new members is A OK, please let me know.
It's never okay to bash anyone in my opinion. We all have personal things going on that others don't know about; if anyone would give some grace we'd be a lot better off.
I personally wanted to have what poster pictured to look at. I should have copied it.
I'm sorry to hear about your mom Mike.
And too ad. Arn and I had many private conversations here, email and phone. He is a great knowledgeable man. I am sorry about what happened, but tis what it is.
Thank you, she was 95, body had long outlived mind, did not recognize me. It was a blessing. I tell my kids, I would rather get lost and become bear scat.... then go through that.
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I feel that. When my grandpa went, he spent the last three years of his life with extreme dementia and a brain Tumor. When he finally succumbed to the bodily stress it felt like he had finally been freed from the stress of living as someone who was losing his humanity. After he died I grieved not for his death but for how long it took and how painful it was for him.
To arn, my experience with him, while slightly negative, was short lived and intellectual. A very interesting person with an extreme sense of what is right and wrong with a temper that often explodes way beyond the confines of the conversation. While he was usually complaining about something that he had a right to complain about, he usually did so with an extreme overreaction. (Take this with a pot of salt as he really only was around for a few months after I joined)
Mom was bad for about 12 years, nobody agreed, but Kathie and I as principal caregivers, saw her 2 or 3 times as much as other 4 parties combined. Broke her hip at 92, do not do this if elderly. She recoververed and could walk but that is when it really escalated, never went home. We could have gone to war with family and her and moved her in 18 or 19 but water under bridge. This situation Either brings out best in families or the opposite. We got opposite. Think multiple 45 minute one way trips a day for stuff that would not work. Nothing was broken, it was mom that was broken.phones do not work if you shut off.
Part of the journey we are all on... or bear scat.
I use that "scat" term a lot around my property. Lizards become cat scat, bird, snake or other scat. All wild creatures become some type of scat in one way or another. .............. Nubs
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Mike and others that have lost loved ones to dementia in whatever form, I get it. I lost my mother to alzheimers. I know the pain of watching their mind and memories just fade away. When my mom passed she didn't even know my name. It was hard to watch.
As far as Arn goes I agree he had his moments both good and bad. When he was good he was very good. And likewise when he went on a rant he was very bad and seemed like he couldn't let things go. All of us here have made mistakes at one time or another, we're human. But we apologize for our mistakes, correct them if we can, and move on. Most of the time this forum is self regulating and we all keep each other in line and thats a good thing.
We are all family here, dysfunctional as it may be at times.
As far as Arn goes I agree he had his moments both good and bad. When he was good he was very good. And likewise when he went on a rant he was very bad and seemed like he couldn't let things go. All of us here have made mistakes at one time or another, we're human. But we apologize for our mistakes, correct them if we can, and move on. Most of the time this forum is self regulating and we all keep each other in line and thats a good thing.
We are all family here, dysfunctional as it may be at times.
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Except with keeping dam mods in line.Mike and others that have lost loved ones to dementia in whatever form, I get it. I lost my mother to alzheimers. I know the pain of watching their mind and memories just fade away. When my mom passed she didn't even know my name. It was hard to watch.
As far as Arn goes I agree he had his moments both good and bad. When he was good he was very good. And likewise when he went on a rant he was very bad and seemed like he couldn't let things go. All of us here have made mistakes at one time or another, we're human. But we apologize for our mistakes, correct the. If we can, and move on. Most of the time this forum is self regulating and we all keep each other in line and thats a good thing.
Just kidding. I agree we all go on our rants. Especially the old farts. Hold it, Greg is retired old fart now. Hard to believe. I was 61 when I joined, 76 this summer. Time goes by fast Especially when you are enjoying it.
All that take care of behind the scenes stuff, that keeps us rolling smooth Thanks for all you do.
I sometimes think I'm becoming an old fart, then I remember Mike and realize I still have a long way to go before becoming an old fart! 
I'll echo the old fart in appreciating those who keep this place civil, not easy in today's increasingly polarized world. My dad always said one of the most important things in life (and to enjoying life) is to take what you do and love seriously, but not to take yourself too seriously. I think somewhere along the lines our world/society has gotten that good advice ass-backwards. Thanks also to all the members here who excel at what they do and who are willing to coach and share - and who are also willing to be a bit silly and just have fun at the same time.
I'll echo the old fart in appreciating those who keep this place civil, not easy in today's increasingly polarized world. My dad always said one of the most important things in life (and to enjoying life) is to take what you do and love seriously, but not to take yourself too seriously. I think somewhere along the lines our world/society has gotten that good advice ass-backwards. Thanks also to all the members here who excel at what they do and who are willing to coach and share - and who are also willing to be a bit silly and just have fun at the same time.
Well said. Well except the crap about me...I sometimes think I'm becoming an old fart, then I remember Mike and realize I still have a long way to go before becoming an old fart!
I'll echo the old fart in appreciating those who keep this place civil, not easy in today's increasingly polarized world. My dad always said one of the most important things in life (and to enjoying life) is to take what you do and love seriously, but not to take yourself too seriously. I think somewhere along the lines our world/society has gotten that good advice ass-backwards. Thanks also to all the members here who excel at what they do and who are willing to coach and share - and who are also willing to be a bit silly and just have fun at the same time.
Speak for yourself...
We needed someone to say that didnāt we?Mike and others that have lost loved ones to dementia in whatever form, I get it. I lost my mother to alzheimers. I know the pain of watching their mind and memories just fade away. When my mom passed she didn't even know my name. It was hard to watch.
As far as Arn goes I agree he had his moments both good and bad. When he was good he was very good. And likewise when he went on a rant he was very bad and seemed like he couldn't let things go. All of us here have made mistakes at one time or another, we're human. But we apologize for our mistakes, correct them if we can, and move on. Most of the time this forum is self regulating and we all keep each other in line and thats a good thing.
He's been out of the country tidying up some personal family stuff. He is back stateside as of April.